Resources to help
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child to grow up
Catholic

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Catholic Prayers
with which every child should
know by heart - or at least be
familiar!

Special Prayers
for the Sacrament of
Reconciliation

Catholic Words
An illustrated glossary which
you can share with your child
or use on your own.

Daily Faith Sharing
A guide to how to do it
based on the readings from
each week's Sunday Mass
The Sacrament of Reconciliation
The little numbers give the articles in the Catechism which are being summarized here.

Forgiveness
(1420, 1425, 1426) God forgives us endlessly
and the church celebrates this reality
through the sacrament of reconciliation.
For, even though we are baptized and confirmed,
and even though we are steeped in Eucharist,
there remains that tendency within us
to "miss the mark,"
to be selfish and unilateral,
to fail to love,
in a word, a tendency to commit sins.

(1421 & 1422) But God never fails to love
and the church celebrates this
in the sacrament of reconciliation.
(1423) We call it a sacrament of “conversion”
because in celebrating it, we turn our hearts
empowered by the Spirit of Love,
back to Divine Love
through Christ who reveals that Love.
We also refer to it as the sacrament of "penance"
a term which comes from a Latin word: repere,
which suggests a posture of sorrow
and a process of change.

Sorrow for the ways we have sinned is the starting point.

(1424) It is also called “confession”
because it is here that we are invited to talk outloud
about how we have sinned,
and in that talking,
recognize the mercy of God which is endless.
And it is called the sacrament of “reconciliation,”
because it draws us back to balance,
it reconnects us to our journey of faith,
and it celebrates God’s wonderful love.

Mark’s Gospel
(1427) If one of the gospels serves as a reflection on this,
it is the Gospel of Mark.
Time and again in this Gospel,
the writer reminds us that we ourselves,
if we wish to follow Christ,
must “repent.”
Indeed, the first words the writer puts on the lips of Jesus
are a call to turn our hearts to God,
to see how it is that we do indeed fail to love,
to repent from that,
and to believe in the Good News.
All of this is wrapped up in a new understanding
which Jesus made the center of his teaching,
namely that the reign of God is at hand!
This Gospel, written in the earliest communities of Christians,
is a call to enter into this new way of living
with a profound commitment.
It is a call to be baptized
with the baptism
with which Jesus was baptized:
to die and to rise in Christ.

(1428) When we die to ourselves in loving others
and continually correct our course in life
to keep us on that journey of faith
we encounter God who is Divine Love.
(1428-9) This course correction is the purpose
of this sacrament.
It’s a time to allow the Spirit of Divine Love
to enter us and draw us back to love.

Our Inner Lives
(1430) This isn’t about  public displays of sorrow
but about the condition of our own hearts.
It is a deep turning or reorientation of our lives
which is then given a visible sign.
(1431) It is a deep desire to change our lives
and, indeed, a sort of inner painful recognition
that we have hurt ourselves and others
by the things we have done
or the things we have failed to do.
(1432) When we pause to admit to the sinful & unloving tendencies within us,
our hearts are heavy and burdened,
but God gives us a “new heart.”
We start all over again, refreshed by Divine Love,
and ready to take on the world!

We must feel sorrow and contrition for our sins.

Saying We’re Sorry
(1433-34) There are many ways to correct our course
and light our interior lamps of love:
fasting,
prayer,
alms giving,
reconciling with others,
caring for those in need,
and dying to ourselves in loving others.
(1435) We can also work for justice and peace,
fight for what is right in our society,
develop a heart for the materially poor,
and set a course for our lives
which results in us being conscious
about how we live and love.
(1436) Perhaps the most effective way to do this
is to celebrate the Eucharist.
(1437) But we can also read Scripture,
pray the liturgy of the hours,
and be mindful of God in all things.

Only God Forgives
(1438-40) The Greek word in the Gospels
which is often translated as “sin”
is better translated as “missing the mark.”
An archer with a bent arrow cannot hit the target.
The arrow will fly off in an errant direction
and the archer will have to chase after it
straighten it out,
and then try again.
We are like that arrow: we are made for love alone
and when we fail to love well,
we miss our mark.
In this sense, we fail our created purpose
but we also fail our companions.
(1441) In the sacrament of reconciliation,
we celebrate a reality which is always there,
but which we sometimes forget:
that God forgives us.
(1442) The church is an instrument of this forgiveness
and seeks to draw us back to God,
who is Divine Love.
Indeed, we are a sign to the world that Divine Love
will never, ever cease loving.
No matter how deep the darkness,
the light of love still shines!

(1443) There is also a certain public dimension to this.
Even though how we miss the mark
seems terribly private to us,
each time we do that,
we also hurt others.
So in reconciliation, we are reunited with each other
and can sit down together at supper again.
Christ repeatedly invited those whom he had forgiven
to dine with him,
which shocked some church authorities.

(1444-46) We all miss the mark sometimes
so this sacrament is aimed at everyone.
The church has only one task:
to express the Divine Love of God
and to help us see that we are set free
to live as we were created,
and to love as we are empowered

(1447-48) In the first step of reconciliation
the Spirit of Love leads us to turn our hearts
see how we miss the mark,
name that clearly,
and take actions to change.
In the second step, the church announces to us
that we are, indeed, forgiven
and it reunites us to the community.

Examining our lives is the first step.

(1449-54) A good way for us to begin this process
is to pause daily in our busy lives,
and review the events of the day.
How have we hit and how have we missed our mark?
Knowing this and admitting it is first.
We can then allow the Spirit of Love
to well up within us
which develops our hearts to be sorry
for the choices we have made
which were selfish and unilateral.
We have called this sense of sorrow by a name:
“contrition.”
(1455) Once we have reached this point
of awareness and sorrow,
it is time for us to reconcile.
As in all things, we humans need some visible,
tangible,
or audible sign to help us see,
touch,
and hear God’s love.

It is necessary for us to discuss with a priest how we have sinned.

In this matter, the church has long called us to
discuss our tendencies to sin
with a priest in a private moment,
normally in a reconciliation room
within a church building.
This conversation, however, can occur anywhere
at any time,
and under any circumstances.
(1456) We give a name to this conversation with the priest,
and that name is “confession.”
It is probably rare for most people,
but there are some ways of sinning
which wound us mortally
because they are so entirely selfish,
so entirely unilateral.
They wound us so deeply
that we call them “mortal sins.”
They pass over a certain line of reasonableness
into the territory of deep darkness
even if they are done in secret.
We know that for us to be truly healed,
to be truly reconciled to the Gospels,
to be truly reunited to the community,
and to be truly aware of God’s forgiveness,
we must discuss these incidents
in the sacrament of reconciliation.

Sometimes we are wounded mortally by what we do or fail to do.

(1457) But even more minor incidents,
which we call “venial sins”
can and should be discussed in confession
if we wish to be faithful.
The church asks us to do this at least once a year,
and to refrain from receiving communion
until we have done so in the case
of those “mortal sins”
described above.

Making Amends
(1458-59) If we have injured our neighbor,
by gossip,
by stealing,
by failing to love,
we must make that up
in order to be truly healed.
(1460) We give a name to the process
of making that up.
We call it “penance.”
In the sacrament, the priest assigns us a form of penance
in order to help make real what we are doing
and deepen our spiritual journey.
(1461-5) We always celebrate this sacrament with a priest
who stands in the place of Christ for us,
offering the same love and the same forgiveness
which Christ himself offers.
(1466) Hence, it is not the priest who forgives us,
but Christ.
(1467) All that the priest hears when we discuss
our tendencies to miss the mark
remains forever a secret
and may never be shared
without exception.

Being Reconciled
(1468) There is mystery in this,
but we know that God never leaves us,
no matter how seriously we miss the mark.
And yet…
we do need a sign of this Divine Love.
Our human heart is healed
and is at peace
and has a sense of well being,
only after we reconcile.
We have a strong sense of being restored,
or being blessed,
by this sacrament.
(1469) Furthermore, we have the experience
of being rejoined to one another as church,
of restoring our bonds of love.
(1470) We set ourselves on a pattern of life:
avoiding the ways we miss the mark
and choosing to live more and more in love…
and this pattern will continue
so that when we die,
the love we have in our hearts will go with us…
(1471-79) God, as it were, indulges us with love,
by drawing us into the Divine Heart
ever more deeply.
By practicing the ways of reconciliation named here,
we keep alive the divine connection
always empowered by the Spirit.
We give this experience of God’s generosity a name:
“indulgence.”

The Liturgy of Reconciliation
(1480) Normally, when we go to celebrate this liturgy,
we begin with a blessing,
followed by reading the Word of God.
Then, in a conversational style, we discuss with the priest
the ways we have missed the mark or sinned
and what the results of that have been.
The priest asks us to make this up by way of a penance,
pronounces the words of absolution,
offers a prayer of thanksgiving,
and gives us a blessing.

The priest stands in the place of Christ for us.

(1481-82) This sacrament can also take place
within a communal setting.
In these celebrations, we prepare together,
pray in common,
and receive a common blessing.
The discussion of our sins
occurs after a liturgy of the word.
The communal setting emphasizes our joined lives,
and how we travel to Divine Love together.
(1483-84) It is also possible when necessary
for priests to offer general absolution
to an entire community celebrating this sacrament.
This is permitted when it is not possible for the priest
to discuss personally with each of us
how we may have missed the mark,
due to a lack of priests
or a lack of time.
Resources to help
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child to grow up
Catholic

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Parents who are not
Catholic
Some suggestions about how
you can take part in all this
for
Eucharist
for Reconciliation
for Confirmation

Household Bible
Study
Here is an easy-to-use,
downloadable Household
Bible Study. 18 sessions in all.
Each has a 5-page worksheet
that you all can share. All
you need is your own Bible.
The cost of this is 99¢ per
worksheet.
Get them all in a handy zip
file.

Just Living
Simply. Sustainably. In
solidarity with the Poor.
This is a 14 step process on
the web site which walks
you through a series of
household exercises leading
to a life more in keeping
with Gospel values.
Exciting but challenging!